Single life as a lesbian in a small town

well hello again.
I have decided to write about my adventures in dating when there are no other likeminded people around.  My hometown is very gay friendly and if I were a boy, I would not be having the issues that I seem to be having...a shallow dating pool.  Since becoming a single woman, again, I have realized that I have taken a different approach, quite opposite of the old Wendy who would leapfrog into another relationship to avoid being alone.  I have taken the better part of a year to find myself, get my life and business in order & enjoy my new found, stress free life.
Many things have come about over this period.  I discovered that my ex is a pathological liar, a narcissist and an overall terrible human being.  How did I manage to survive 9 years with this person?  Was I bamboozled or is this part of a narcissist's character to adapt to various situations?  I have bobbed back up to the surface with a new found knowledge of the human psyche and been made a better person because of it.
So let's discuss this shallow pool.  I think there is one other single lezzie in my town.  As nice as she is, I do not see myself with her, and I am sure she doesn't see herself with me either!  All the other women are nested in their country homes with children...children, another step I am not willing to take.
I could always venture into Ottawa to see the local talent but I am older now and don't want to meet "another temporary partner".  There has to be someone out there who wants to settle down with a person like me.

Well it is looking more like spring out there every day and I realized that I have let an entire season pass before writing!!! What am I like??? To re cap the time passed...Our beautiful friend Terry from the UK spent a week with us. It was amazing to catch up with her, honestly one of the kindest, sweetest girls we know! Nat and I are so blessed to have had our first christmas and NY's in our new home ... our good friend Louise joined us for the holidays and we spent a fantastic time in picturesque Wakefield with snow topped trees and warm smiles from everyone. There is something to be said about living in the country, the people are friendly and generous and genuine ... how refreshing!

On a personal level, I finally took control of my life and committed to losing weight (I know, typical new year's resolution - except I was ready for NYE!!!). After my mother passed away, I added an additional 10 lbs to my already over stretched body. I was depressed, horrified and felt a general "lack of caring". Looking at images of myself over the years is what threw me over the edge. I was tired of the comments (although they came from a good place) on how I "carried it well", "would never have guessed you weighed THAT much!!" etc. I made the call and started my weight loss with Dr Bernstein. For all the negative comments I heard about this program, I had absolutely no problems and the weight fell off within 2 months! I taught myself how to eat again and balance my diet and I am proud to say that after 2 months of maintenance, I am holding strong to my 40 lb weight loss! I feel like a new person, confidence is oozing out of every pore ... I feel re born in a sense. Positive outlook, projects off the ground, potential life changing plans for our near future : ) I don't think it could be better at the moment.

Nat and I have come so far in our lives and I will never stop giving credit to my mum for enabling us to change our environment and seeing that there is something else out there for us to enjoy and be proud of. It has been over 1.5 yrs since mum passed and I think of her every day, we changed our lives the day she died. Again, rebirth.

My girl Nat is the most impressive out of the two of us. She has grown so much in the past few years, she is one of the hardest working people I know. She has gone from a chef with "anti family" hours and stress to a central teller in a bank! My girl balances a bank everyday!!! Insane. As usual though, it is a means to an end and we are working so hard at starting up our dream business. I have been able to follow my dreams and experiment with art and in the process, gained new clients for web design and graphics. We both want Nat to experience the joy of doing what you love to do and have positive outcomes and that is exactly what we are aiming for : )

I'm Back!

well it's been a while since my last post and many things have changed!  Some good, some bad.  Mostly good though :)
I am now a single mother of 3 fur children.  My ex (who will not be mentioned) left our life here in Wakefield for the exotic, moderately dangerous hot spot of Israel after being unfaithful with a childhood friend from there.  She decided that after 9 years the best way to finalize our union was to go behind my back with zero guilt and pursue a relationship over the internet while still with me.  It took 5 months to complete this "master plan" but you know what?  In the end, I am better off.  Distance doesn't always make your heart grow fonder, sometimes it makes it realize how incredibly conditioned I was to accept her erratic behaviour as the "norm".  So today I am living in the home I always wanted to live in.  I have wonderful friends around me.  I am the sole owner of a cute little shop in the village and I am stress free!!!!   2013 started off with many issues for many people but I feel like I have come out the other side...somewhat unscathed.
So this is my first post of my new life.  I will be back to unfold the mysteries of my life later on.  Like every day, today is full of errands, work & life.  I will find time to pop on here and express myself as the cheapest form of therapy there is out there LOL
Looking forward to it!

Stompin' Tom in concert

Last night Wendy, Clarence and I went to see a true Canadian legend Mr. Stompin' Tom Connors!!! At the age of 73, he rocked the house. Cowboy hats a-boppin', canadian flags a-wavin', and foot a-stompin' beats that even had yours truly clapping along. It was so much fun and went on for 3 hrs!!! Granted, he had to take a half hour break to "recharge", but he came back to a presentation by Canada Post of his new postal stamp. To think that this man had such a hard upbringing and he has overcome all obstacles in life to be still here, entertaining us with songs from our childhood : ) I just wish mum could have been there. I pictured her clapping along and singing off key beside me : )

OK! My site is up : )

I took me a long time to do it, but it is done! WOOHOO

I attached this blog to it, so perhaps some of you are here because of my site...which is amazing.

Today was a great day. Productive, smooth, relaxing...everything you need to succeed.

This week has been difficult at times. Nat and I both received sad news. Health problems are affecting Nat's family and we are hoping for the best and for Lee to be better. Our thoughts are with you Lee xx

I received some very sad news this week as well. Since moving from Montreal, some of our casual friends have become distant. No more "running into them" on the streets and saying Hi and catching up. Therefore, I had to figure out cryptic messages on Facebook and awkwardly send an email to see if I was right or not. It felt terrible having to ask the obvious question, but I needed answers. I was eventually told by my friend that a dear person whom I had worked with and shared laughs with, took his life. It is difficult to understand the human brain and I just pray that he is in a better place, laughing and enjoying the view.

I will leave you with that because there is nothing I could say that would be appropriate to follow.

My first blog - moving to the country

Well well well where do I start?

I decided to create this blog to accompany my website. I wanted to give more information on my life, but it wasn't suitable for the type of site I created. Soooooooo this is the easiest way to get what I want. If someone wants to know more about me, then they can come here : )

Let's start with today. Right now I am sitting @ my computer looking out onto our backyard filled with flowers, hummingbirds and blue jays. It is almost unbelievable that less than 10 months ago, Nat (my wonderful girlfriend) and I were living in a Montreal apartment, listening to insane neighbors screaming and letting their children run wild in the hallways. How we survived in that atmosphere for over a year is a show of strength itself!

Our lives changed on June 6th when we took possession of our first home together in Wakefield, Qc. Wakefield is my hometown and I have been away for over 19 yrs. It was odd coming back home, but now being here seems like the most normal thing we have ever done! As a child, I would always say "I am going to live in that house one day" and voila! here we are.